Knowledge is Power, Wisdom is Knowledge- A little advice from MaiTai:

Making a difference is a value one should not deny.  Even making the smallest of a difference in someone else’s life aside from one’s own results in great success.  I think that the vast majority assumes that great success is equivalent to big money, fancy cars, and designer clothes…. Basically having everything you have ever wanted at the snap of a finger because there is no cost on money.  We’ve all heard the saying “ money doesn’t buy happiness.”  Well this is true in a major way.  In order to succeed in happiness one must succeed in the values of life, thus in return, God himself possibly will reward us in money.  Allowing us to be happy as well as wealthy.  Jim Rohn once said, “ Success is not so much what we have as it is what we are.”   Being successful is not about the money we have, it is not about the job we have, or furthering our education, nor is it about being able to juggle both at the same time.  Success is what we are, who we are, and what we stand for as the human being we are destined to be. 

Recently, I came across a troubled soul.  I say that this person is a troubled soul, because their outlook on life is rather ridiculous, and down right ignorant.   Upon getting to know what this person really thinks, I have grown less patient with them, and would rather not waste my time with them.  They are greedy, always wanting, never giving and hasn’t the slightest clue what success really is.  They think that because they have both a job and juggle a couple of college courses, as well has try to keep their so-called family in line, that they are successful, turning their life and anyone else’s that crosses their path into a competition.  For instance, they think that the fact that I do not have a job at this time is ridiculous.  I am currently enrolled in college and I already have a couple of grad schools picked out.  I think it is redundant that I should explain myself for not having a job.  But for humor’s sake, I do not have a job at this time because my main focus is, indeed, my college education.  I have a long way to go before I become a doctor.  I want to become a doctor not for the money, however money will be a great gift, but to make a difference.   It is not that I can’t “juggle” both a job and my schooling, it is the fact that searching for a job for myself takes up a lot of time, because I can’t really get a decent job because of my degree, or lack there of.  So if I consume all of my time in looking for a job, then it is going to affect my college study and work.  Until I get some of college out of the way, I do not “need” a job.  Just because I do not have a job, doesn’t make me less successful, however.  Like Rohn said, success is not what we have but it is what we are. 

That one quote from Rohn, says so much, but this troubled soul is so blind to it.  I am aware of this because upon talking with this person, they just don’t seem to care or even acknowledge others who are less fortunate or are dealing with issues. This troubled soul says a lot of mean and hurtful things about others who have either made a difference or are the ones that are the difference, and expects to be rewarded back.  It is extremely sad that this person is so cold hearted and it is a huge disappointment and let down, especially when this person would rather benefit themselves rather than another.  Who wants to be around a person who is like that, let a lone give them the time of day?

Again, this troubled soul points fingers at me saying that I am not successful, but I am here to say that I am, I am very successful.  I don’t go around flaunting my success because in all reality it is morally wrong.  So for one time only, here’s how I am successful according to the real definition of success:  I am very active in Military support organizations.  Our military sacrifices so much for so little, they deserve respect and pay back from our nation.  Have you ever heard of Operation PAL?  It is an organization that allows complete strangers to send “Prayers and Letters” (PAL) to wounded Marines that have been injured in combat.  I try to do this whenever I can.  I also send care packages and letters to deployed Marines.  I do all of this and it is the least I can do for our Military.  Whenever I see someone of the Military at a store, or on the street, I take time out of my day, to stop and thank them for their sacrifices and their service, because it is my duty as a wife to a Marine and a Veteran.  I also try my best to give guidance and advice to other Military wives, again it is my duty.  I also am active in Pregnancy and Infant Loss awareness organizations.  Being a mother of an angel, I know what these mother’s go through, and I wish everyday that I had someone there for me like I am for newly formed friends that I have made through doing these things. 

So why am I not successful?  I mean, I “juggle” all of these morally right activities along with furthering my education so that I can help and make a difference in other’s lives even more so than now.   How is that not success?

In conclusion, my words of advice and the sole reason I wrote this blog is::  Before you point fingers, stop and take a look at what a person has done and what they are doing before you say they are not successful, while doing so, stop, take a step back and look at yourself, and analyze what you have done.  Have you made a difference? Or are you too occupied with money and work? Because maybe pointing fingers at another, just shows that you are self-conscious about yourself, and that is your only defense.  Even, with insecurity of your own self worth, no on likes to eat their own words.  

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With love,

-MaiTai